When you become a parent, their own lives immediately becomes a lot more complicated. Not merely do you have to try to shape smart choices about your own life, but you too have to educate yourself and realise important decisions about another little person’s entire life. I can say with confidence that I’m nowhere near mature enough to handle this pressure, and I probably won’t be for several years. Mostly, being a parent is hard AF, and no one can be perfect all the time. But the coming week, T.I. made some comments about his parenting that gravely spawned me grovel, and we need to talk about it.
On the latest episode of the Ladies Like Us podcast, hosted by Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham, T.I. shared some stories about his parenting mode with his 18 -year-old daughter, Deyjah. When asked if he had given the” fornication talk” to his daughter( of which Deyjah is the eldest ), he said that not only has he had~ the talk~ with Deyjah, but he takes things a stair further. He said,” Not only have we had the conversation. We have yearly tours to the gynecologist to check her hymen. Yes, I go with her .”
W-AIT A SECOND. UH. SIR?
Well I don’t adored that. https :// t.co/ 7d18BGPZuq
— The Betches Sup (@ Betches_Sup) November 6, 2019
Seriously, when I firstly read this, I literally breath. This is just icky and stupid on so many levels. Before we really get into it, let’s go through some more of what T.I. has just said. He says that this father/ daughter lore started working after Deyjah’s 16 th birthday gathering, where reference is” leant a sticky tone on the door:’ Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30. ‘” I know some dads who won’t even be informed about buying their daughter tampons, so you would think this is a positive step, but no. And before you can say ” HIPAA contravention”, he said that Deyjah signed a shape allowing medical doctors to share private knowledge with her father.
Of course, one of the most obvious questions here is that your hymen being violated doesn’t prove you’ve had sex. T.I. recognise this on the podcast, but still reverberated like a ended moron:” And so then they come and say,’ Well, I precisely want you to know that there are other behaviors besides sex that the hymen can be broken like bicycle going, sportings, horseback riding, and only other means of sporting physical undertaking, ‘” he said.” So I say,’ Look, Doc, she don’t ride no ponies, she don’t ride no bicycle, she don’t play no boasts. Exactly check the hymen, delight, and give me back my answers expeditiously.'”
Okay, so Deyjah might not make her colt to the aged township artery, but has she never used a tampon? Driven down an peculiarly choppy street? I’m not a gynecologist, but a immediate Google search will tell you that there are a litany of ways a hymen can undermine that have nothing to do with sex, whether or not you’re riding horses. But despite all these confounding variables, T.I. hasn’t had anything to worry about thus far. He said that,” as of her 18 th birthday, her hymen is still intact .” Which is … great for T.I ., I approximate?
def did not think we would be talking about hymens today. or TI
— christine teigen (@ chrissyteigen) November 6, 2019
In expressions of the science behind this, there literally is none. The World Health Organization has stated that there is” no scientific or clinical basis” for chastity testing, and that” There is no examination that can prove a girl or maid has had sex–and the appearance of girl’s or woman’s hymen cannot prove whether they have had sexual intercourse, or are sexually active or not .” Boom, roasted. And on top of T.I. being clueless about what he thinks he’s proving with these gyno visits, he may be causing more suffering than he even realizes. A study from the National Academy of Health has pointed out that practises like this can also have a negative mental impact on women and girls( no sh* t ), and has advised that” Countries should review their policies and move towards a censor of virginity testing .”
Damn, so this isn’t just stupid, it’s extremely incorrect. I understand that parents can be a little overprotective sometimes, but T.I. exactly bragged about attacking his n0w-adult daughter’ s privacy in a way that doesn’t even prove anything! If he expressed his hope that his daughter isn’t having sex, that’s a preference we are capable of have, but it’s really not up to him to police her action, and certainly not in such an invasive, pointless direction. Too, I’d be really curious to know if he’s as up-to-date on the sex health of his sons around the same age? Just saying.
T.I. has come substantial backfire on the internet since his comments were released, and his refer is currently the top trending topic on Twitter, together with” She’s 18″ not far behind. So far, he hasn’t noted further about what he said, but maybe the negative response will get through to him, and his younger daughters will be saved this kind of parenting when they get older. We can only hope.
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